Almost a year ago, I met and fell in love with the most amazing man. Now we’re engaged!
The Back Story
We started talking about marriage on the fourth date and when we found out we were pregnant in May, J told me that he’d been planning to propose on my birthday in July, but that he’d have to change his plan to surprise me.
One Friday afternoon in July, we we’re going out to dinner with the kids and we started discussing rings. I told him that under no circumstance was he to spend four months salary – I like nice things, but that’s a shitload of money, we’re having a baby, and we’re going to buy a house soon. Spending that much on a ring just wasn’t practical or necessary. I stared into his eyes and said, “Honey, we’re looking for discounts, coupons, and specials”. He burst into laughter as I told him the story of the time my bestfriends’ mother died, and I was helping them make arrangements.
They had the money to pay whatever it cost for the funeral, but I’m thrifty, so I asked each funeral home I called if the offered any discounts, coupons, or specials. It seemed to break the tension of an already stressful time and make everyone laugh, but I was serious…DEAD serious. I was serious about the ring too! I’m not a jewelry lover, but I obviously wanted a ring with a diamond large enough to see.
I could tell he was nervous about the actual proposal. I could see the wheels in his head turning while he anxiously tried to figure out how he’d pop the question. The whole thing bothered me. Why couldn’t we just get rings and BAM, be engaged?
The following weekend, J and I had a discussion and we decided that we were going to forego the theatrics and skip right to the engagement. The next day, he took me to two jewelry stores to pick out a ring and hilariousness ensued.
When we walked into the first store, the saleswoman approached us and ask what we were looking for and immediately, I answered “discounts, coupons and specials”! J laughed out loud!
“Do you have a budget in mind?” She asked.
I said, “Yes. The budget is discounts, coupons and specials”.
J chimed in, “Actually, the budget is whatever it takes to get her an engagement ring she likes”.
“Well, I like discounts, coupons and specials” I said back to him.
The saleswoman laughed out loud “All of our pieces are on sale, from 10-70%”.
“Great, let’s see what’s 70% off” I responded.
She walked us back to a case with engagement rings. At that point I realized that I had no idea what I wanted on liked, because I’d never imagined myself getting married. J, as patient and calm as always, looked at me and asked if I saw anything I liked. None of them were really my style, so I suggested that we get sized and look at wedding bands for him. We did, and he found something right away. He refused to let me order his ring until I got mine, so we left that store and went to the second store.
At the second store we were greeted by an amusingly slick salesman.
“Hey there lovebirds! What are we shopping for today?”
I answered, “Discounts, coupons and specials”.
J nudged me with a smile and said, ” we’re looking for engagement rings”.
The man took us to a case in the center of the store, and before he could sit down, I said “I’m not interested in rings with a bunch of tiny diamonds clustered together to give the illusion of a larger stone. I’d prefer a solitaire. Round or cushion cut.”
“Ah, a solitaire! Classic. You’re a woman after my own heart.” He said as he rubbed his hands together.
He took us to another case towards the back of the store full of solitaire rings. After showing us the rings, I wasn’t impressed. The prices were high and the diamonds were small – I couldn’t let J spend that much on a ring.
I leaned over and whispered to J that I wanted to shop around and look online, and we left the store. As soon as we did, I did a search online and started looking on Blue Nile, James Allen, Etsy and a few other sites. I ended up finding a gorgeous, preset, 2 carat round solitaire diamond ring at Blue Nile. It was on sale and 93% cheaper than what we’d seen at local jewelry stores. I told J that I’d found the perfect ring, and he ordered it right away. Then, I ordered his ring and we waited. A few days later my ring came and I took it out of the box and put it on. At 3am he rolled over and whispered, “I never officially asked you, but will you marry me”? “Of course”, I whispered back. Then we cuddled and went back to sleep.
Since that day we’ve been officially engaged. It’s not the fairytale engagement that lots of girls want, but then again, I never wanted to get married. Then, I met the love of my life. Everyday it feels new, but it also feels like we’ve been together for our whole lives. He’s my bestfriend and I’m madly in love him, and watching Sunday Night Football in bed with him or bowling with the kids, is just as exciting as traveling the world.
It may not be the over-the-top engagement that so many people want, but it’s exactly who we are. Lowkey lovebirds, who talk about poop and watch sports and Dateline in bed. Lowkey lovebirds who agree that they’re engaged and that’s good enough. Lowkey lovebirds, who will probably get married somewhere in the mountains of Montana.